How to Tell Hair Stylists, Nail Techs, and More Beauty Pros That You're Just Not That Into It
Picture this: you book a hair appointment, because you've noticed the ends of your hair are splitting and your go-to hair mask just isn't cutting it. You want to maintain your current style — just get rid of the split ends. The hairstylist listens to what you have to say, then suggests you ditch the simple trim for a full hair makeover. Think something along the lines of bangs or a bob. The hairstylist goes on and on about how great it would look and how it would change your style for the better. There's one problem: you don't want any of that. You just want a simple trim! How do you politely deflect the pressure?
Here's another scenario for you to consider. You're getting a manicure. You choose a petal pink shade of nail polish. Once the nail artist starts applying it, you notice that it's too sheer for your liking. You intended to choose a colour that was bright and opaque. Can you ask the nail artist to start over? How do you confidently express what you want?
The point is that beauty appointments can be tricky to navigate. Sometimes it's difficult to communicate your wants and needs. Sometimes beauty experts (whether knowingly or unknowingly) pressure you into trying something you're uncomfortable with. "Saying 'no' in life is difficult for many people in any situation," says Dr. Sanam Hafeez, an NYC Neuropsychologist and Columbia University faculty member. "People are often afraid of being perceived as rude or disappointing another person." Luckily, though, there are ways to politely and tactfully assert yourself in even the trickiest of situations.