Abbie Points Out the Double Standard Between Her Portrayal in Paradise and Ciarran’s: “It’s Just Classic Patriarchy”
Abbie spent the first two episodes chasing Ciarran, spending a night with him after he didn't get a kiss from Cass Mamone in the "hookup spot", and then having a seemingly steamy pash on their date. But back in the villa, it seemed like there was a difference between Abbie and Ciarran's feelings about their date — Abbie seemed keen to continue pursuing Ciarran, but he said that they lacked chemistry as a couple.
When Jess Brody arrived and she and Ciarran connected, Abbie turned her attention to getting a rose from one of the other men — first Jake Ellis, who had a stronger friendship with Cass, and then Jamie Doran. But Jamie had promised his rose to Brittney Weldon as well, and seemed to make the last second decision to keep Brittney on Paradise, even though he wasn't interested in being with her romantically.
Read on for our chat with Abbie, who told us that we weren't presented with the most accurate version of events:
POPSUGAR Australia: Have you spoken to Ciarran since Paradise?
Abbie: Yeah! We were messaging last night. I've spoken to Ciarran quite a few times since Paradise, just like casual things here and there, replying to each other's Stories and stuff. Ciarran and I are on good terms.
PS: Did he ever talk directly to you about not pursuing you romantically in Paradise?
Abbie: We actually had a conversation that wasn't shown that I initiated, saying that, 'Look, that didn't go well, we don't like each other.' So we both didn't like each other. We had the conversation, but it was a mutual conversation.
When we got back to the villa, I went up to him and I was like, 'Just to be clear, I don't want you to feel like I really like you, because I don't. I think it was just sexual chemistry and that was it. I think we're friends and I get along with you, but it's nothing more than that.' He was like, 'Yeah, absolutely, I'm glad we're on the same page.'
PS: Did it bother you that you were portrayed on the show as still keen on him, while he wasn't interested?
Abbie: Yeah, because it's just simply not what happened. And there's so much footage of me talking about how I don't like Ciarran, not that I don't like him as a person, but how I don't have feelings for Ciarran and how it didn't work out. And me being like, What a gee-up, how much I geed that up in my head, how embarrassing that I thought I was gonna like him, and I didn't.
PS: Do you think that you were attracted to the idea of Ciarran, rather than Ciarran, the actual person?
Abbie: Oh my God, that's so accurate. It was like a fun little thing and he like reminds me of some of my ex-boyfriends — he's good-looking and he's got the tattoos and he's a bit naughty and cheeky. Yeah, it was a hundred percent just the idea of him. I mean, I don't dislike Ciarran at all, but we didn't click.
PS: Obviously you have a close relationship with Jessica Brody now. How did you as friends navigate the Ciarran situation?
Abbie: Well, I didn't like Ciarran anymore, so I was like, 'Go for it.' She got there and I was like, Oh, babe, that was the worst date of my life.' That was actually the worst date of my entire life, and not because Ciarran's awful, but because we just didn't click and I was like, what do we even talk about? He didn't ask me any questions about myself. And so I was like [to Jess], 'Babe, go for it.' I haven't seen last night, so I don't know how that was portrayed, but Jess and I were messaging and I was like, 'It's just so funny. I'm seeing people say that we're not friends, we're literally best friends.'
We FaceTime like every second day for about an hour. We're very close. Before COVID, I was planning to go down to Melbourne once every couple of months to see her. I literally was like, 'Oh, isn't it funny to watch a fight we didn't know we had?' We never had any issues. I knew she was getting Ciarran's rose and I didn't have a problem with it at all, because I wanted to go.
I wanted to go because I didn't like anyone. The one guy that I went there for didn't work out and I was like, Why would I want to stay if I didn't like anyone? I didn't want to stay for the sake of it.
PS: So you weren't trying to get a last minute rose from Jake and Jamie?
Abbie: I was like, May as well give it a crack, but I was not dying for it. I was crying in interviews, because I'd be like, 'I just don't want to be here,' 'I don't want to try to force something that isn't there,' 'I don't want to be for the sake of it.' And then I'd get all upset about Matt, 'Well in Matt's season, I wanted to be there because I liked him.' The producers would be like, not that they made me, but they're like, 'Don't you think it's worth putting in effort in case someone good comes next week?' So that's kind of why I was like, yeah, I'll give it a crack, but I'm not gonna fall over to get that rose. But I don't know how it was edited. I think it was edited to seem like I was . . .
PS: Do you think that you hadn't processed the breakup with Matt yet?
Abbie: A hundred percent. Because I feel like when you're in the world of Bachelor, it's so different to your real life obviously, and then you leave, and you spend time getting over it. Then I went back into that world and it kind of felt like I had just broken up with Matt. Because it's the same producer, it's the same situation in interviews, you're doing the same thing, going through the motions of it in the same way. And I had to talk about Matt a lot, because I had to talk about my season. I definitely should have waited I think at least a year, because I wasn't ready emotionally to do it again.