"I Feel Like My Thing Is That I Never Want to Disappoint Anybody . . ." — Liz Sobinoff on Guilt
Welcome to The Guilt Trip, a new editorial series that sees some of Australia's most influential personalities share with us their guilty secret. It's normal to feel guilty sometimes — but now more than ever it feels counterproductive to beat ourselves up about something we did many moons ago, or even something we've let fall by the wayside now as we cope with self-isolation.
We hope by publishing these honest conversations around guilt — guilty pleasures included! — we can unpack those sometimes-overwhelming feelings and how they shape our lives (and selves!), and reassure you that it's OK to take the pressure off. It's never as bad as it seems.
Liz Sobinoff feels guilty about letting other people down. From the word go, she's overly apologetic, and feels terrible about mixing up the time of our interview. She'd forgotten she was booked in to see a psychic.
During her tarot card reading, she kept drawing the 'hermit', a card symbolising soul-searching and self-reflection, which seemed to validate her choice to withdraw a little and focus on self-care during COVID-19. "I feel like my thing is that I never want to disappoint anybody, and I'm always overly apologetic for disappointing people. But I've got to learn that it's OK to feel what I'm feeling, and that it's validated as well."
Liz has appeared on the last two seasons of the widely popular dating show, Married at First Sight, where she was cheated on by her TV husband, Sam Ball, the first time around, before finding a lasting relationship with Seb Guilhaus at the end of last year. The couple are making their relationship work long-distance, with the differing state lockdowns meaning that Seb remains based in Adelaide for the time being, even though the pair announced plans to move in together at the end of the season. Liz plans to visit him in about a week.
This strange lockdown period, Liz says, is the first time in two years that she's been able "to completely let go of everything" and put herself first. "I was getting quite distressed because I didn't realise how much I was just turned on to automatic, and literally listening to everyone else, putting everyone else before myself," she explains.