PS: What motivated you to make Misunderstandings of Miscarriage?
Tahyna: MuM evolved from my own feelings of grief, guilt and shame that resurrected after experiencing my second miscarriage. I didn't feel like there were enough resources available and felt incredibly isolated. I decided to share my experience so others didn't feel alone in their grief.
PS: What are some of the misunderstandings about miscarriage that you noticed and wanted to debunk with the film?
Tahyna: Certainly, the idea of shame and guilt that you or your partner "caused" the miscarriage is a big one for me. I really wanted to understand why miscarriage happens and discovered it is almost always an issue of genetics and, as Dr. Many Mangat says in the film, "standing on your head in a yoga pose is not going to cause a miscarriage".
Another misunderstanding is the best way to support someone going through a pregnancy loss. A lot of times friends and family unknowingly say hurtful things when trying to comfort someone, so we tried to provide guidance to the support system.
Also, the idea that the term of gestation determines the validity of the loss. We wanted to remove the notion that there needs to be a hierarchy of grief. A person's pain is their pain.
PS: Where did you find the courage to speak up about your experience of miscarriage?
Tahyna: I don't think I'm particularly brave, I just knew from my own experience that women were suffering in silence and if I showed a willingness to share, I might encourage others to do the same. I also had my wonderful family and my producer and dear friend Kelly Tomasich help me find my voice.
"We wanted to remove the notion that there needs to be a hierarchy of grief. A person's pain is their pain."
PS: What were some of the physical and emotional impacts?
Tahyna: Physically I experienced cramping, pains and bleeding as well as the rollercoaster of hormonal changes pregnancy brings even if you do miscarry. The emotional impacts can be severe, in fact one in three women can suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder if they don't properly acknowledge and process their grief following a miscarriage. Other emotional impacts can manifest through anxiety and depression.
PS: How did miscarriage shape your experience of motherhood?
Tahyna: I had a hard time enjoying my pregnancies and I think it has also perhaps heightened my overall anxiety as a parent. My children are my everything though and I am so incredibly grateful for them.