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Not only can sex toys help us to better understand our bodies and what we like (not desensitise them like the patriarchy would have us believe), but they can also teach us to have better orgasms.
Using sex toys either solo or with a partner is a nice way to ease in when it comes to trying something new in the bedroom.
Whether you’re curious about anal play, different motions, vibrations and stimulation points or even getting better at letting go and releasing in moments of pleasure; there is a sex toy that can help you get to where you want to be.
But with so many sex toys on the market right now, we want to make sure you’re investing in the right one for your needs. So, we asked some experts.
Scroll down for six of the best sex toys that can teach you how to have better orgasms, according to male sex coach Cam Fraser, sexologist Chantelle Otten and sex and relationship therapist, Christine Rafe.
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Wand Vibrators
Male sex coach Cam Fraser recommends:
“Wand vibrators such as the Mantric Rechargeable Wand Vibrator ($109.95) are extremely versatile and can support a range of different orgasms, from ejaculatory orgasms and nipplesgasms, to perineum and anal orgasms. They are a great way of exploring your boys and understanding where it is that you like to be touched and stimulated.
“Massage wands can be used for solo or couples play, and are non-intimidating to look at so make an ideal introductory bedroom accessory. Plus, with a couple of extra attachments, a wand can offer you the satisfaction of several toys in one neat little package.”
Lovehoney
Prostate Massager
Male sex coach Cam Fraser recommends:
“This internal erogenous zone – the prostate – is an incredible epicentre of pleasure. Massaging it via the anus can lead to explosive full-body orgasms, hands-free ‘super-Os’, and even multiple climaxes.
“Pleasuring it properly takes a bit of time and skill, which is where the prostate massager comes in. The We-Vibe Vector+ App and Remote Controlled Rechargeable Prostate Massager ($199) is a great option.”
Lovehoney
Clitoral stimulator
Sexologist Chantelle Otten recommends:
“If you have a vulva, I recommend trying a clitoral stimulator like a finger vibrator or a bullet vibe with ears like this Happy Rabbit ($59.95) as they are a fantastic way to experiment with edging.
“Start by running them over your erogenous zones and experimenting with different levels of arousal. Once you get close to climax (level 8/9), try and bring yourself back down again (to a 5/6) and edge back up to climax again.”
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Rabbit Vibrators
Sexologist Chantelle Otten recommends:
“Basically, this a vibrating dildo with a little arm on the top to stimulate the clitoris while the dildo stimulates the vagina.
“Great for those who love blended orgasms, clitoral and vaginal! It is my favourite vibrator. Blended orgasms bring a different type of intensity than just clitoral or vaginal. Because they blend the two, your body may react in a different way to usual! I highly recommend elevating your gasm game with a rabbit – I love the Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator ($11.96).”
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G-Spot Vibrators
Sex and relationship therapist, Christine Rafe, recommends:
“G-Spot vibrators like the Womanizer OG Pleasure Air G-Spot Stimulator ($299.95) has been developed based on the pleasure anatomy of those with a clitoris and can be used to stimulate both the clitoral bulb (the external part of the clitoris) and the internal structures.
“The Womanizer OG combines G-Spot vibration with revolutionary pleasure air technology, perfect for anyone with a vulva who already enjoys internal and g-spot pleasure, as the dual stimulation with air suction and vibrations is a new type of pleasure experience than other g-spot vibrators.
“It’s also great for anyone who has reliable pleasure with external stimulation and is curious about exploring internal pleasure more and increasing capacity for internal pleasure and orgasms.
“The OG can support those who have historically relied on external stimulation to build new pleasure pathways that include penetrative pleasure and orgasm, which is great for penetrative sex with others!”
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Wearable Vibrator
Sex and relationship therapist, Christine Rafe, recommends:
“A wearable vibrator designed for use during penetrative sex targets both the external clitoral bulb and the internal clitoris (via the g-spot) maximising pleasure during partnered sex.
“The We-Vibe Chorus ($299) is one of my favourites as many vulva-owners report that they do not reach orgasm through internal stimulation only, and rely on external stimulation, or dual internal and external, to reach orgasm. This toy can therefore increase orgasmic potential during penetrative sex for those who otherwise haven’t been able to.
“Dual stimulation toys can increase pleasure capacity with internal stimulation for those who reliably experience pleasure through external stimulation, building new neural pathways in the brain that link internal stimulation, pleasure and orgasm.”
