Whether you're in a new relationship or a long-standing one, there comes a time for your first trip together. Now, don't get nervous. It doesn't need to be as big a deal as everyone around you is probably making it out to be. Yes, you'll be spending 24/7 together and may see some new sides of each other you haven't experienced before. But all in all, it's a great way to get to know each better and discover how compatible you really are. To make sure you survive your journey, I'm sharing some of my secrets with you below. Thank me later.
1. Plan and book it together.
It can be stressful to choose the hotel, the flights, and the activities for any trip. Instead of putting the blame on one person if the hotel sucks, I suggest planning and booking the trip together. If it's a bust, at least it's on both of you. If you're in a new relationship, this is also a great way to get excited about the trip together. With big events like this early in the relationship, you can sometimes worry whether the other person really wants to go or not. So if you plan it together, you can both show each other you're serious about it. If you've been with your partner for a while, planning your trip together will allow you both to put in the same amount of effort, which can definitely help avoid any bickering down the road.
2. Speak up if you need your alone time.
Spending 24/7 with the same person for any period of time is not easy, no matter who you are. Even on vacation with each other, you need to make sure you speak up when you need your alone time. Make sure you listen to your needs and voice them. If you feel yourself getting anxious or irritated, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your relationship necessarily; it may just mean you need some time for yourself. It will make sure you don't get sick of each other and allow the trip to have some balance.
3. When you have to go number two . . .
Sorry to go there, but it's necessary. Every girl (and guy) wonders, "Where the hell am I gonna poo?" If you're not quite at that comfortable stage yet with your partner, I've got some clever ways you can get away with this one secretly. First, use the bathroom at public places — the airport, restaurants, by the pool, etc. You won't be spending much time in your hotel room anyway, so take the opportunity when you're out. If you need to go in the hotel room, turn on the shower and go before you jump in. By the time you get out, no one will know. You're welcome.
4. You don't have to do everything together.
Being two different people, you and your partner may not want to do all the same things at all the same times. In fact, it would be a pretty rare thing if you did. So don't feel pressure that you have to take a surf lesson if he really wants to and you're terrified of the water. Let him know he should totally go and enjoy it, that you want him to, and that it's just not your thing. That way you both can make the most of the trip and not feel like either of you are holding each other back.