If you've never used lube before and want to give it a try, or you only use it in times of drought, let us be the first to say: it's a magical elixir that helps enhance comfort and pleasure in just about every sexual scenario. While using it still seems somewhat taboo or even scary for a lot of people, rest assured that using lube is as commonplace as using condoms. If you don't currently have a tube on your nightstand, this guide will inspire you to run out and get one ASAP.
1. Know Your Options
There are countless brands and textures to choose from, but lube falls into four main categories: water-, silicone-, petroleum-, and oil-based. And they each come with their own set of rules. For example, water-based lube is safe to use in any situation, but it dries out faster. Silicone-based lube is great for water-play but can't be used with your toys. Coconut oil is also a great natural approach, but can erode condoms. So, when choosing a lube, make sure you're aware of the pros and cons of each ingredient base and pick the one that's right for whatever you're getting into.
2. How To Apply Lubricant to Yourself, Your Partner, or Your Toy
There's really no wrong way to use personal lubricant . . . other than not using enough. So, go forth and lubricate! To avoid a cold shock, rub the lube vigorously in your hands before application. A few pumps of lube applied to your clitoris, vulva, vagina, anus, fingers, toy, and/or lover is all you need to make penetration nice and slippery. Lube also makes for a great oral sex assistant when applied to the lips, it stimulates erogenous zones like the nipples, and adds a sexy factor to any massage.
3. A Word of Caution
Not all lubes are created equally. Steer clear of brands that contain glycerin, parabens, scents, or sugars. These chemicals can easily disturb the delicate PH balance in the vagina, resulting in allergic reactions, Bacterial Vaginosis, and yeast infections. If you're prone to sensitivities, it's best to leave the tingling and warming varieties behind altogether. For added safety, buy your lube from reputable sex shops where products tend to be higher quality than what you find at the drugstore.
4. Have Fun and Don't Be Afraid to Ask Questions
Lube is an unrivalled asset when it comes to foreplay, arousal, and marathon-length romps. Even research shows that lubricants are associated with significantly higher reports of sexual pleasure and satisfaction. If you have any questions about lubricants, stop by a reputable sex shop or talk to your doctor.