Tinder wasn't my first foray into dating strangers. I started with OKCupid when I lived in New York, because all my (conveniently coupled up) friends told me to do it. Over my three years dating on websites and apps, you learn that instant gratification is not a real thing when it comes to dating. Yeah, you can message back and forth with a cute guy and get an adrenaline spike, but it's just temporary. Waiting for the right person who will make you happy for the long haul takes time — and it should.