10 Lessons I Learned About Being Single When I Rewatched Sex and the City
"Who are you dating these days?" "Why are you still single?" "Don't you ever feel alone?" These are just a few of the questions single girls everywhere are constantly asked. Whether we want to admit it or not, being single carries a certain stigma that's hard to shake. As women, we're raised with a lot of things that tell us that having that perfect relationship is the ultimate goal, whether it's from movies, books, or couples in our own lives who we want to emulate. To "have it all," we need that perfect partner and beautiful family. And while there's nothing wrong with striving to reach that goal, many women tend to miss the pure importance (and fun!) that comes with being single.
Following in the footsteps of Carrie Bradshaw has been on my list of things to do since I caught my first glimpse of Sex and the City when I was younger. My mom wanted to have it on one night so she could keep up with the episodes, but she had to turn down the volume every few minutes to shield our ears from hearing a Samantha comment somewhere along the lines of: "Men cheat for the same reason dogs lick their balls: because they can!" She also had to constantly turn it completely off when things started getting hot and heavy in Carrie's (completely unattainable) apartment on the Upper East Side. But seeing the sheer confidence, power, and fun that these four women had sans partners made me realise there's so much beauty and power in being single.
So, as a 20-something single girl living in New York City, I knew it was time to rewatch the iconic show, and this time, I took away valuable lessons I had missed before. From devastating breakups to the excitement of meeting someone new, the ups and down of falling in and out of love are perfectly portrayed by the strong women in this show. Carrie's deep desire to be loved can be seen in all of us. Samantha's confidence is a reminder that we are all worth more. Miranda's passion for her career and goals for her life prove that working hard pays off. And Charlotte's dream of having that perfect life shows that sometimes the best plans are the ones that change.
From dating to sex to everything in between, the lessons found in Sex and the City are relevant to anyone at any stage of their life. But for me, the lessons I learned about the significance of being single made me understand that the most important relationship we can have is with ourselves. And I couldn't help but wonder, is being single the best thing to be in my 20s? According to your favourite foursome from Sex and the City, it is, and here's exactly why.