Skip Nav
F*cking Awesome Females
Meet the Woman Who Visited Every Country Across the Globe — and Broke 2 World Records!
F*cking Awesome Females
4 Empowering Books About Badass Women That Will Leave You Inspired
Opinion
The True Depths of Trump's Jaw-Dropping Lack of Empathy, Captured in 1 Telling Photo

What Does White Ribbon Day Mean

A Message to the Men in Australia, on the Wrong Side of History


This feature is dedicated to our #NoChangeNoFuture initiative. From the Women's March, to Australia voting yes to same sex marriage, and the #MeToo movement, 2017 taught us to look beyond ourselves and come together as a collective of powerful women who are writing our own history. Join us as we cancel setting one-dimensional personal resolutions this January and commit to being the change we want to see. Because without change, there is no future.

White Ribbon is an organisation that should not exist. Plain and simple.

I have been an ambassador for White Ribbon for over three years, and I am embarrassed about that. White Ribbon is Australia's largest male-led campaign to end violence against women. And I'm embarrassed because this is such a preventable problem. White Ribbon Day is a day where we can all place the issue front of mind, and bring it out of the shadows (which is where it thrives), but in reality it's something we should be talking about every single day.

Sadly for too many, it is front of mind every day, and without their choosing. I'm not going to educate you on the stats, the causes, the breadth and cost of the issue. These are widely published, and you can find out more at whiteribbon.org.au. I want to use these words to notify men that are involved in, condoning, or not speaking out against domestic violence, that the tide is turning. And you're on the wrong side of history.

I also want to tell the women reading this that male attitudes are shifting. Sure, the cog is turning slower than we'd all like, but it is definitely turning. A distinguishing trait of being a 'man' is our treatment of women; ingrained within that are constant displays of courtesy, chivalry, consideration, equality and respect. They aren't offered as an extravagance, but as a core to how we treat the women in our lives.

Disrespecting women in a physical, emotional, financial or social way is the most pathetic and cowardly display of being a 'man' imaginable. I said I won't focus on stats, but there is one that can't be repeated enough; one woman is killed every week at the hands of a current or former partner.

That is atrocious.

When so much of our money and energy is going towards fighting illness, disease, poverty and accidental traumas, how can this be something we, as men, are allowing to happen? But as I've mentioned, things are changing, and attitudes are shifting. Men are bringing the problem out of the shadows, in what they are saying to each other — as well as what we aren't saying. Off-handed jokes about women being 'lesser' are becoming jarring, and as we've seen in Hollywood, victims are gaining a strength to speak out, garnering support from not just women, but scores of men when they do.

A new spotlight is shining on those who treat women as objects, and those who do should sleep uncomfortably knowing that light will eventually shine on them. But change isn't easy. The oath for White Ribbon is 'I will Stand Up, Speak Out and Act to end violence against women.' It's one thing to be confident in your own actions, but being a man that actually stands up and speaks out against a mate, or a colleague, is harder. But what if it was your wife, or sister, or daughter being targeted? Would you be silent then? Because every woman who is victimised is at least one of those.

I say to any man reading this, as one who looks himself in the mirror every day, what side of history do you want to be on? I truly believe this is a generation of men that are leading the charge for change. Yes, there is a long way to go but there have been many indicators of shifts in values.

And as we head towards White Ribbon Day, believe me when I say many of us understand what it means to be a 'man', and we are sick of being embarrassed by the words and actions of those who call themselves a man and act like anything but.

If you need to talk to someone about sexual, domestic or family violence, call 1800 737 732.

Image Source: Supplied
More from POPSUGAR
Meghan Loneragan Citizens of the World Relationship Advice
Trump Quotes on Rob Porter Staffer Accused of Domestic Abuse
Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka UN Women Interview 2017
How to Tell If Someone Is A Victim of Domestic Violence
Melissa George's Domestic Violence Story on Sunday Night
Australian Domestic Violence Statistics in 2017
Lee Watson on Getting Kids Outside
How Much Should You Have in Common With Your Partner?
Lisa Clark Personal Essay on Why You Shouldn't Rush Love
Should Barnaby Joyce's Relationship Be Kept Private?
Latest News
All the Latest From Ryan Reynolds