Divorce is hard enough on kids, but when you factor in complicated custody schedules, it can also feel confusing and unpredictable. What often ends up happening to children in these situations — who normally thrive on routine and consistency to feel safe — is that they'll start to act out. They'll show signs of anxiety, which will result in behavioral issues, temper tantrums, outbursts. Soon enough, parents —no matter how committed to coparenting they are — will lose control.
It's a frightening proposition that many parents fear is an inevitability.
Enter: the Mighty + Bright Co-Parenting Calendar.
Created by mum Sara Olsher following her own divorce, her new calendar serves as a research-based visual aid to help kids — particularly those too young to understand the concept of time — make sense of their new lives.
"Kids of all ages have a hard time keeping track of custody schedules and often need reminding," Olsher explained on the company's website. "Unfortunately for them, our custody schedules are usually kept on our digital devices, where we can reference them but our kids cannot."
The shared-custody calendars include personalized magnets to represent each parent (yes, they can be custom-made to look like each person) and different coloured houses or apartments as well as magnets for different activities and appointments.
The weekly calendar is on sale now for $30, but you can also purchase biweekly and monthly options as well as a basic routine chart to help "helps kids feel a sense of security in knowing that every day begins and ends in the same way," no matter which parent they're with.
For those parents struggling with the complexities of custody arrangements, Olsher recommends purchasing two calendars — one for each household. As one parent, Joy, wrote in a testimonial:
"The routine chart was exactly what we needed to establish a good routine for our son after our separation. It gave him a sense of normalcy he was missing."
Learn more about the calendars here: