Emma Chow, co-host of The Edge 96.ONE's Breakfast Show Mike E & Emma, is having a baby! Here she shares what she's learnt about being pregnant.
If you had asked me if I wanted kids five years ago, I would've answered with a firm, "F no!". I was in a relationship with someone who hated kids. In his defence, he'd made that clear from the start. Perhaps I'd shrugged it off and secretly hoped that he would change his mind. Instead, I became bitter about kids as well. Who in their right mind would want to be around a screaming baby 24/7, cleaning up poop and spew and never getting any sleep? I would never be allowed to be selfish again. I would be living my life for someone else for the better part of the next 20 years. That sounded like hell.
Then I met my husband. The first time I saw him with his niece, I melted like butter. My ovaries did quadruple backflips and I felt like I was going to throw up. I was already falling in love with him and this picture was the icing on the cake. I knew then and there that he was going to be the father of the children I thought I never wanted to have.
Fast forward three and half years and I'm 22 weeks pregnant with our first baby. I'm loving every minute of it; it's exciting, weird and freaking cool at the same time. Every Saturday, we study what size fruit the baby is, and track the new things he/she will learn to do that week. The shape of my belly, boobs and butt change all the time. And the kicks that get stronger by the day remind us that we're one step closer to meeting the little person who will change our lives forever.
There is so much more for us to learn in the months and years to come, but here is what I've learned about pregnancy and impending motherhood so far.
People are always shocked at how long you decide to take off work. If your mat leave is short, they tell you you'll want more time and won't be ready to come back to work so soon. If you take a year, they make the assumption that you won't be coming back. No matter what you choose to do, people will cast judgement on how serious you are about being a "good" mother or maintaining your career. As long as you have a plan and the right support network around you, you're sweet.
I want to keep my identity. Being a mum will absolutely be my number one job, but I am also a wife, a sister, a daughter, a friend, and a really hard working radio host who has dreams of her career continuing to prosper. Maybe it's an unrealistic idea, but I want to at least try to continue to be those Emmas as well as being a kickass mum.
Bodycon everything is your friend. Don't even bother with outfits that require a top/bottom combo. The comfiest (and I think more flattering) option is to go with bodycon dresses — they show your bump off and you can continue to wear them post-baby.
Take it easy on the social media posts. This is going to sound harsh, but people don't care that much about your kid. Your loved ones do, but the rest of your FB friends and Insta followers have a much lower tolerance for baby spam. I've definitely unfollowed people for overdoing it! Document the sweet moments pre and post baby, but don't go too OTT.
You will go through a "lumpy" phase. Mine was somewhere around 12 weeks. You're rounder than usual but still haven't popped enough for people to know for sure that you're pregnant. It just looks like you've eaten too much cake! Don't worry, it doesn't last more than a few weeks.
Mums can be mean to other mums. It's like high school all over again; everyone is judgy AF. The most important thing is to listen to the parents who you admire and aspire to be like. Just ignore everyone else.
You can use pregnancy as an excuse. Sometimes you're not gonna be up for that Saturday night birthday party or dinner. Your tiny human is literally sucking all the nutrients, energy and blood from your system, so it's completely legit to use him/her as an excuse to stay home and chill!