The longest two weeks of any woman who is trying to get pregnant's life are the ones between her fertile period and being able to test. Time moves at a glacial pace, where every hour feels like days and you feel every excruciating second. At least, that's how it felt for me. How on earth could I possibly relax when the next 14 days could mean the difference between having the type of family I always dreamed of and not?
As my would-be period inched closer and closer, I felt exceedingly normal, and that's when it hit me.
Of course, there was nothing I could do to guarantee pregnancy, but what I could do was anxiously wait for any sign that I was going to have a baby. I longed for a little morning sickness or tenderness in my breasts — basically anything to give me a clue. But because I had never done this before, I had no idea what to expect when it came to pregnancy. If Hollywood is to be believed, every woman finds out they're pregnant after looking at a calendar and puking in a trash can. But after scouring the internet, it seems that nausea is just one of many symptoms a newly pregnant woman can experience.
Unfortunately, I wasn't experiencing anything. As my would-be period inched closer and closer, I felt exceedingly normal, and that's when it hit me. That was my symptom: feeling normal.
In the week before my period, my body always kicks the cramps, upset stomach, and bloating into high gear, as well as a fresh batch of acne. The days before my period arrives are always spent clutching a heating pad with low, dull pain in my abdomen. This time was different — there was no bloating, no cramping, and best of all, I felt entirely normal, as if my period wasn't going to make an appearance at all. In all of my anxiousness, searching for any big symptom, it was the quietness of it all that gave me my biggest clue.
Suddenly, I was able to relax. In a few days I would test and know for certain, but I already knew that I was pregnant. I didn't get any real symptoms until much later in the first trimester, and I never experienced the dreaded nausea (don't tell the movie industry). If I hadn't listened to my body, it would have been a frustrating few weeks before finding out that I was expecting. Sometimes, the absence of a symptom can be the biggest sign of all.