While there are plenty of positive qualities that make INTJs awesome, like being independent and intelligent, we do have our fair share of flaws. Some of the traits that make us who we are — introverted (I), intuition (N), thinking (T), and judging (J) — can also sometimes be our downfalls. For example, the fact that we mainly think with our heads over our hearts (unlike INFJs) serves us great in professional situations, but not so much when it comes to romantic relationships. If you're an INTJ looking to improve in the new year, consider focusing on these four resolutions below.
1. Be humble.
As one of the most confident personality types, humility isn't one of our strong suits. While there's nothing wrong with believing in our capabilities — and being able to have something to show for it — we don't have to go as far as being arrogant, which is one of our biggest weaknesses.
In 2018, let your skills do the talking. Resist the urge to resort to your "my way or the highway" attitude, and allow others to value your great ideas on their own. This will make you even more respectable and likeable (though INTJs know we couldn't care less about what others think).
2. Give yourself a break.
INTJs are known to be incredibly hard-working and determined personalities, which is great from a professional standpoint, but not from a self-care angle. Once we set our sights on something, we go all in, sacrificing what's necessary to ensure excellent results. Because of our extremely high standards, we'll often drive ourselves into the ground if we've failed to find the most efficient route.
Remember the difference between slacking off and knowing when to take a step back. Though we are sometimes guilty of taking shortcuts (efficiency all the way), we also need to reward ourselves from time to time for our dedication, even if that means taking a break or the day off to boost productivity.
3. Allow yourself to feel.
Emotions are an INTJ's kryptonite. We value logic over feelings in any situation and base decisions solely on reasoning. "The very notion of emotional expression is synonymous with irrationality and weakness to many INTJs, a display of poor self-governance and fleeting opinion that can hardly stand up to the enduring light of factual truth," says 16 Personalities. We may come off as cold or detached to those who don't know us, but in reality, it's just our way of protecting ourselves. And because we so rarely tap into our emotions, we feel them even more strongly than other personality types who do express their emotions more freely and therefore have had better practice controlling them.
Rather than avoiding confronting your emotions altogether, learn to manage them to your advantage. "While they will never be comfortable with a truly public display of emotions, INTJs can learn to use them, to channel them alongside their logic to help them achieve their goals," says 16 Personalities. Understand how you're feeling, and use your emotions as a source for something bigger. As a result, your friendships and relationships will also benefit.
4. Go with the damn flow.
Our tendency to overanalyse just about everything unnecessarily overcomplicates things, especially in the subject of romantic relationships. Being both a planner and a perfectionist typically serves us well, but not in times when our high expectations aren't met.
Our judging side is responsible for 25 percent of our INTJ personality, so it won't be easy to face situations as they come. But in 2018, try your best to loosen your grip on life and enjoy yourself a little more!