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Last Night’s MAFS Dinner Party Showed Just How Damaging Emotional Abuse Can Be
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Basmah Qazi
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If you tuned in to Married At First Sight last night then you most definitely witnessed Andrew’s repulsive behaviour towards Holly at the dinner party. People on Twitter described it as “narcissistic” and an example of gaslighting.
But what was particularly triggering was how Andrew managed to turn everyone else against Holly, through manipulation and lies. To recap, Holly and Andrew arrived at the party separately, and with Andrew arriving first, he told everyone how hurt he was because Holly had ditched him.
Olivia and Tamara immediately took his side and ladies, can we please hear both sides of the story before choosing right from wrong? It’s starting to get frustrating at this point.
“I felt that energy that they really wanted to go after Holly,” Andrew told producers, right after he manipulated every single person in the room to turn against her. “That’s a reflection of Holly, not me.”
Unbelievable. I’m starting to understand why his last two marriages didn’t work out.
When Holly arrived, her feelings were invalidated, and hardly anyone tried to hear her side of the story.
As it was all unfolding, Twitter shared their thoughts.
“The narrative where Andrew can be a literal sociopath misogynist but it’s still Holly who is ‘too intense’ re[garding] wanting kids or whatever is literally everything that sucks about being a woman in one example,” wrote one user.
The narrative where Andrew can be a literal sociopath misogynist but it’s still Holly who is “too intense” re wanting kids or whatever is literally everything that sucks about being a woman in one example #MAFS #MAFSAU
— realityniccy59 (@realityniccy59) February 16, 2022
Others called it “classic gaslighting behaviour” and we have to agree. Andrew’s treatment of Holly was upsetting, and calling her acting “crazy” is simply because he was making her feel that way.
This is classic gaslighting behaviour. How 👏 can 👏 people 👏 not 👏 see 👏 this! Holly is acting ‘crazy’ because that is legit what gaslighting people make you feel. CRAZY. #MAFSAU #mafs #MarriedAtFirstSight
— akinat (@Elle94004403) February 16, 2022
Couple swap, it's time: Holly & Anthony. And let those other two shitbags gaslight each other… #MAFSAU #MAFS pic.twitter.com/YQv67Tnres
— MAHONEY (@cdtmahoney) February 9, 2022
Olivia. Holly switching seats is exactly how a woman should act! If you're in a situation you don't want to be in. You fuck politeness and remove yourself. Women do NOT need to smile and bear abuse for anyone. #MAFS #MAFSAU
— Elsie (@elsielou77) February 16, 2022
In case it builds awareness: Andrew blaming Holly of narcissism is a classic example of narcissistic projection – accusing someone of doing what they in fact are doing. The narc passes their shame to avoid dealing with it. Holly needs to leave. The manipulation is abusive #MAFSAU
— Sahar Adatia (@sahar_adatia) February 15, 2022
Group: So what if he he abused you?
— Apolo (@PK_APOSTOLI) February 16, 2022
Andrew spoke so well. Sit next to him & be a good wife.
This is why couples stay in DV relationships #MAFSAU #mafs
The narrative where Andrew can be a literal sociopath misogynist but it’s still Holly who is “too intense” re wanting kids or whatever is literally everything that sucks about being a woman in one example #MAFS #MAFSAU
— realityniccy59 (@realityniccy59) February 16, 2022
Australia watching the entire group side with Andrew tonight #MAFSAU pic.twitter.com/xOkh7VQj7S
— Jimmy & Nath (@jimmyandnath) February 16, 2022
as fucking awful as it is to watch, i’m really not surprised that andrew has successfully played the victim card. it’s exactly what narcissistic abusers do, they manipulate things to be in their favour. #MAFS #MAFSAU
— alysha (taylor’s version) (@intosneedy) February 16, 2022
Call me crazy but I don’t think Holly owes Andrew the courtesy of a hello? Women don’t need to be polite to toxic men? Cool? #mafs #mafsau
— realityniccy59 (@realityniccy59) February 16, 2022
This is a clear demonstration on how easily people can be manipulated into pitying the abuser, and why so many victims don't speak out, or feel heard.
— Floss O'Neill (@floss_o) February 16, 2022
I am disgusted.#MAFSAU
Sorry but if a women tells you she is being emotionally abused, you don't ask for evidence, you ask what can you do to help her survive the abuse!#mafs #mafsau
— VišnjaCreates (@VisnjaCreates) February 16, 2022
Married At First Sight airs at 7.30pm on Channel 9 and 9Now.
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